A Word on Interracial Adoption

One of the things that immediately drew me to look more at the girls, of course, was their bright red hair.  I thought, "They would so easily fit into our family.  No one would ever know that they were adopted, just to look at them."  Not that immediately picking them out as adopted would be a shameful thing.  But, being a large family, we tend to stick out anyways and get lots of unsolicited questions.  "Are they all yours?" is a common one.  It made me happy to think that when answering this question that there would never be the follow up question of, "What about those two...are they adopted?"  This question would most certainly be asked, I'm sure of it.  Adjustment into a new family, a new culture, and a new language is going to be challenging enough.  I don't want them to also have to deal with the awkwardness of strangers constantly questioning their biological roots or making them always feel "different".  I stumbled upon a video that helped me see how important this will be:  http://www.iamsecond.com/#/seconds/Christine_Petric/  She gives a testimony of how she always felt different in her adoptive family, how she was discriminated against by other families and how terribly painful that was to her. Certainly God used that in her life to draw her to Himself.  But listening to her story let me know that fitting in physically within a family can be very important and that there was nothing wrong with wanting to give this form of comfort to the girls.

That said...I see absolutely nothing wrong with interracial adoption.  One of my favorite blogs is a family that had 4 biological children and then adopted 6 more kids from Ethiopia and Korea:  http://www.owlhaven.net/2009/11/26/thanksgiving/  It's so lovely to see such a rainbow of colors and personalities in this family.  It's much better to be cross-culturally and cross-racially adopted than to not have a family at all.  I've been told that it helps to adopt more than one child if the race is different so that they aren't "they only one" but I would think that with sensitive and communicative parenting, even this could be dealt with in a way that lets the child know that he or she is loved and accepted and that the differences are but skin deep.

We have looked at children from all over the world:  China, Korea, Ethiopia, the Philippines, and Haiti, to name a few.  These countries, depending on the age and medical needs of the child, are open to having large families adopt from them.  We have looked over the faces of countless Waiting Children pages and wondered if any of them would some day join our family.  We looked at sibling groups and children with chronic illnesses and physical anomalies.  We were open to all of these children and oooohed and ahhhhhed over them all (the kids and I that is!).  But it wasn't till we saw the precious picture of the girls that we all had our hearts moved to say, "These are the ones!"

We are still open to one day adopt outside of our ethnic background, domestically or overseas.  Only the Lord knows where we will end up.  I do know that we now have a fire in our bellies to see these kids find homes, whether the home is ours or not.  We hope to help others find out about kids who need homes and to also help them raise money in order to bring them home.  We will continue sponsoring orphans overseas so that they can be a part of a Foster home situation rather than be institutionalized.  We hope to one day be a part of missions trips to serve and love on orphans around the world.  We hope that our kids can join us as well.  They already have a passion in their hearts for those who need families.  Maybe one day we will have little brown-skinned grandbabies!!!

2 comments:

  1. Beautiful post! What an amazing journey your family is on and thank you for sharing it with us!

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  2. It is so true that there are a lot of orphans in this world that need families....I would like to say that where you decide to adopt from and why shouldn't matter in the grand scheme of things. At least you are open to taking additional children into your home. Katya and Karina are going to need a loving family just as much as an orphan from the US, Haiti or China. God Bless You all on your journey!

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